tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post3972213058683792585..comments2023-10-03T06:01:22.776-04:00Comments on The aftermath of rainbows and unicorns: Partial planningSamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11342453970164354596noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-87482962555300177592011-06-20T22:47:14.138-04:002011-06-20T22:47:14.138-04:00I would ask Josh if he has any ideas, and ask him ...I would ask Josh if he has any ideas, and ask him to help you pick. It will reduce stress, and you can get excited about the planning. Just a thought.Yankee, Transferredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06627693160131161133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-6246637708886450142011-06-20T21:48:38.695-04:002011-06-20T21:48:38.695-04:00I like the ferry from NYC to Martha's Vineyard...I like the ferry from NYC to Martha's Vineyard idea. That way the vacation basically starts Friday afternoon out on the water in the ocean breeze. And on the way back Monday night you'd see all the fireworks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-70498677254805933682011-06-20T20:27:08.421-04:002011-06-20T20:27:08.421-04:00I find going on vacation stressful too. I enjoy i...I find going on vacation stressful too. I enjoy it once I'm there, but I'm also really happy to get home. I always stress over how much it costs, even for "cheap" vacations. We go to Costa Rica alot, because my inlaws have a townhouse on the beach there, so it costs us just plane fare and a car rental, and a bit for food--but even so, taking five people (me, my husband and our three kids) to Costa Rica and feeding them spaghetti and tuna every night still costs us a few thousand. We visited my husband's 90 year old grandmother in Italy last year, and while it was one of the best vacations we've taken, I could have bought a Hyundai for how much it cost. (She's 90, we couldn't put it off much longer.)<br /><br />One of my kids also has a peanut allergy, so I spend much of our vacation in foreign lands stressing about what my kid eats and if I'm going to have to navigate a foreign country health system. (We did on our last trip to Costa Rica. Not fun.) <br /><br />You've given Josh your parameters, just let him pick the location. For a 3 day weekend it has to be someplace fairly close. Martha's Vinyard is a nice place, and there's a ferry that leaves from 35th st, so you don't have to drive in holiday traffic. (Its a five hour ride on the Atlantic Highlands ferry.)Lisa @ Lisa Moveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10296941353317254985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-28434625936781264402011-06-20T15:17:32.878-04:002011-06-20T15:17:32.878-04:00Quickie Caribbean, all-inclusive. Puerto Rico or U...Quickie Caribbean, all-inclusive. Puerto Rico or US Virgin Islands if you don't have a passport, anywhere else if you do. Plenty of beaching, but you could also do something new like snorkeling or, IDK, jet-skiing?JJ https://www.blogger.com/profile/13709043416663759186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-62367687615390984452011-06-20T13:21:53.503-04:002011-06-20T13:21:53.503-04:00How about Turks and Caicos? It's in the Carib...How about Turks and Caicos? It's in the Caribbean but only about a 3.5 hour flight from NYC. The beaches are supposed to be beautiful. http://travel.nytimes.com/2007/10/28/travel/28turksandcaicos.html#Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-23645552504274686202011-06-20T12:07:40.560-04:002011-06-20T12:07:40.560-04:00Israel! Come hang out with Alisha and me. :)Israel! Come hang out with Alisha and me. :)Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17351908177992679378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-78026693537631162212011-06-20T11:58:19.517-04:002011-06-20T11:58:19.517-04:00Instead of Cape Cod try Nantucket or Martha's ...Instead of Cape Cod try Nantucket or Martha's Vineyard.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-36666163388111426322011-06-20T11:14:52.836-04:002011-06-20T11:14:52.836-04:00Cape Cod might be difficult without a car.
This i...Cape Cod might be difficult without a car.<br /><br />This is kind of funny but what about Bermuda? It's farther away and more luxurious than the Jersey shore but it's not as far away or as luxurious as Hawaii. It's close enough for a three-day weekend, and it is plain enough for you to just sit and relax but exotic enough that Josh will feel just sitting and relaxing there is fancy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-70470524477188217892011-06-20T02:53:24.519-04:002011-06-20T02:53:24.519-04:00i think this is one of those times that you and Jo...i think this is one of those times that you and Josh need to talk, maybe say to him that you really want to have this vacation with him but that as he knows this will be your second vacation and you want to maximise your potential to enjoy it for more reasons that just having him around ;-) you would like a budget and maybe four suggestions of places to choice from. you shouldnt have to stress but its normal for you i think!Mizasiwahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01998671877747912475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-35868412640222372402011-06-20T01:52:57.575-04:002011-06-20T01:52:57.575-04:00Cape Cod or Maine, maybe?Cape Cod or Maine, maybe?Elainenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-51291598177473147422011-06-20T00:48:21.323-04:002011-06-20T00:48:21.323-04:00Can you let Josh decide? Or is it that he wants y...Can you let Josh decide? Or is it that he wants you to decide? Maybe he wants to find out what you "really" want so he can give it to you. It was smart of you to say <i>All I want is a beach and ocean and no rushing anywhere and good food.</i> That worked in choosing a restaurant in Florida, your telling him some preferences to narrow it down and his choosing. Can you tell him your preferences again and remind him that you are giving him this time as a gift so he should choose where he wants to take you? If not, maybe explain to him that you are okay telling him your preferences but leaving the next step up to you is uncomfortable for you because of financial issues? And that really you have no specific place in mind? Unless that's not the case. If you have a specific place in mind then say so, but explain to him your fear of answering, that you don't want <i>to be rude</i> but don't want to miss <i>your only chance</i>, that you <i>have no idea what's reasonable</i> and that's why <i>a budget would be great</i>. Maybe since you said what you'd like to do he can come back with some options he'd like and you can say which options appeal to you most, like you did with the apartments? He did say for you to think about what you'd like to do and that then together you two could plan where to go based on that. As for actual suggestions, you obviously aren't going to go to Hawaii for a three-day weekend especially if you wouldn't be going to California. Boston and D.C. were both good suggestions for the Fourth of July, but since you want beach and ocean, how about Cape Cod? And it's totally okay to tell Josh you'd prefer discussing vacation plans when the two of you are alone, though it did sound like Danielle was helpful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-59644835252256784252011-06-20T00:42:26.357-04:002011-06-20T00:42:26.357-04:00Sam, why don't you ask him to offer some sugge...Sam, why don't you ask him to offer some suggestions for places with beaches and just choose one of them? The vacation is his gift so just let him worry about the cost. Now that you've commited to actually going, don't overthink it. Just try and enjoy it.<br /><br />I've found that the more times I put myself into new and strange situations (like vacations are to you, or letting others do things for you), the easier it gets. That's not a bad thing.<br /><br />Change is hard for many of us, but resisting it only makes it worse. I am way older than you are, but still stubbornly learning about embracing change. I cringe now when I think of the many opportunities I might have had in my life had I not been so resistent to changing the status quo.<br />KathyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com