tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post5092217960193676313..comments2023-10-03T06:01:22.776-04:00Comments on The aftermath of rainbows and unicorns: Hey know what's tons of fun? Samhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11342453970164354596noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-16598665075899904792013-05-12T16:44:21.329-04:002013-05-12T16:44:21.329-04:00The problem with 'phases' is they last for...The problem with 'phases' is they last for fucking EVER!!! Sorry u lost control and hit her - I have unfortunately been in this position too... Its not pretty but when u lose it - its lost. I agree this therapist should be helping u to figure out what to do with you totally misguided and far too opinionated littlest sister!! She does need to get a grip and maybe part of that is making her Dani's responsibility... Its hard to think it but if she can't come up with useful suggestions on how to rectify her situation or thoughts etc then your just going to go round and round in circles!! I'm thinking of you daily and hoping this is resolved with a mutually beneficial ending!! <3Mizasiwahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01998671877747912475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-22797009202704938052013-05-12T12:31:51.017-04:002013-05-12T12:31:51.017-04:00Ugh. I'm so sorry all of this is happening and...Ugh. I'm so sorry all of this is happening and that it hasn't blown over yet. I figured it was a passing phase. I know it's not "right" to have hit her, but I would have done the exact same thing. She appears to not understand boundaries. She is not respecting you as a caregiver/parent so perhaps it was time to get down to her level and be a sister. I have no idea what's right here and absolutely no advice to offer. I do know that this is the last thing any of you need or deserve. So many challenges in life. For what it's worth (not much, I know) I think of you often and wish the best possible karma/life path for you. I'm sorry you feel so alone sometimes. Especially when you need some unbiased advice and some unconditional love. <br />-Molly WestCoastWannaBehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12123958190726465782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-83288591367422767362013-05-12T07:23:34.069-04:002013-05-12T07:23:34.069-04:00You shouldn't have hit her.You shouldn't have hit her. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-59382726068137644142013-05-12T06:33:06.877-04:002013-05-12T06:33:06.877-04:00Okay...so you suck. And her point is? I'm hean...Okay...so you suck. And her point is? I'm heang her complain complain complain, yet I'm not hearing what should be done (in her opinion). The fact is, the past is the past and there isn't anything that can be done to change it. My first inclination would be to find out what solutions she has about the future and to get over the past already. You were all CHILDREN for goodness sake. And if all she wants to do is complain, there's the door. See how she'd enjoy the state being in charge for a while. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-61845058012817400072013-05-12T00:22:07.924-04:002013-05-12T00:22:07.924-04:00No one deserves to be verbally abused (you) or phy...No one deserves to be verbally abused (you) or physically abused (sister). Obviously, you're the adult so act like it & try to detach a bit from her. She's a child and doesn't understand what has happened in the past - she doesn't has the memory.<br /><br />My sister is 10 years younger than I & we were raised by the same but totally different parents. We've had our fights because of totally different experiences within the same family. <br /><br />Its really hard but my relationship with my sister is more important than the individual memories we have of our parents.<br /><br />Hang in there & do something good for yourself, detach & chill with the boy & give little sister some space. She'll come back - love her. If you're gentle she'll be gentle.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-77400970088134251882013-05-11T14:54:05.092-04:002013-05-11T14:54:05.092-04:00Simple answer? She should be in charge of herself...Simple answer? She should be in charge of herself. Food, clothing, schooling, shelter. <br /><br />She needs to get a grip.Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07413498586612395649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-87401515035999932792013-05-10T16:21:47.630-04:002013-05-10T16:21:47.630-04:00I agree with the previous poster. You cannot contr...I agree with the previous poster. You cannot control what your sister does, but you can control what you do. You need to continue to work on controlling your temper.<br />gmgAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-37742792940730536082013-05-10T12:36:07.215-04:002013-05-10T12:36:07.215-04:00as unfair and crappy as this is, you have to rein ...as unfair and crappy as this is, you have to rein in your temper and be careful. you are in a parental role (whether she wants you to be or not) and the odds aren't in your favor if someone reports that you've hit her. <br /><br />if you know you've done the best you can (which i believe you have), don't give in to the guilt trip she is trying to lay on you. keep going to the therapist - hopefully you'll get some one-on-one time for just you. - shayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-59152663724593703982013-05-10T10:20:05.139-04:002013-05-10T10:20:05.139-04:00so sorry you are having such a shitty time.
so sorry you are having such a shitty time. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-57168204285182843002013-05-10T09:31:30.870-04:002013-05-10T09:31:30.870-04:00Wow. Yeah, she is lucky. For that, and so many oth...Wow. Yeah, she is lucky. For that, and so many other reasons.<br /><br />I think you should try to get some time with the therapist without Alex there, to get some ideas on how to deal with her. I mean, besides punching her, which frankly would be my first inclination too.Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17351908177992679378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-45099100444663787822013-05-10T00:27:55.187-04:002013-05-10T00:27:55.187-04:00That Ungrateful Bitch! Ingrate!
I hope that make...That Ungrateful Bitch! Ingrate! <br /><br />I hope that makes you feel a little bit better towards Alex, because no matter how angry I am with my child, the moment I feel he is being slighted/threatened/looked at the wrong way, my anger gets directed towards the offender. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com