tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post579050653145205681..comments2023-10-03T06:01:22.776-04:00Comments on The aftermath of rainbows and unicorns: My comfort or yours? Samhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11342453970164354596noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-26014514088340020742015-10-05T16:10:28.356-04:002015-10-05T16:10:28.356-04:00I agree with the previous comments. Laurie has all...I agree with the previous comments. Laurie has all day in her own head to act fatalistic or switch to denial while everyone else is trying to maintain their day to day lives of work or school. <br /><br />Maybe speaking with Josh's Dad and explaining that you have to protect your home life and that of your sister's through all of this. Laurie has a very nice home and is not lacking in the financial resources to have help as she recovers. Maybe she worries no one will visit her if she is in her own home. If everyone, especially Josh, commits to visit she might be willing to stay in her home. You haven't mentioned your sisters very much through all of this, but I'm sure this is taking a toll on them as well. <br /><br />Btw...your comfort food sounds fantastic to me! I'm sure there is a great place to get Jewish comfort food in NYC.<br /><br />Take care of yourself and if things deteriorate with Laurie feel free to ask your HR person for a meeting. They like to know about a situation before it becomes one. Let them know that Laurie has acted as a Mother figure for you and your sisters and that when needed you want to be able to be there for her and your family. I know it sounds a little extreme, but my sister is an HR exec and she said a heads up is much appreciated. Also, being on good terms with HR is always a good thing!! <br />Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09093808588291523770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-17506155034164223032015-10-05T15:33:54.555-04:002015-10-05T15:33:54.555-04:00You didn't lie. Laurie is family.You didn't lie. Laurie is family. Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17351908177992679378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-5141959588232952862015-10-05T08:00:37.911-04:002015-10-05T08:00:37.911-04:00From my experience, it sounds like the stress leve...From my experience, it sounds like the stress levels associated with this type of illness is proceeding normally for all of you. Unfortunately your work schedule is likely intensifying your own stress, leaving you precious little time to shore up your reserves for getting through each day. I remember feeling a bit (a lot) selfish myself after a time so I think that's normal too. Extended illness can shake up even the most solid of families making everyone (more) irritable and crazy. Hopefully being able to vent here on your blog helps a little. Perhaps you can ask Laurie's housekeeper to send over some Jewish comfort food for Josh on some evening you'll be working. I'm guessing Laurie would have done that in times past and Josh is also just missing that as well. Not much to be done except to just try and get through it as best as you all can. It sucks for sure. Best wishes for a good outcome from Laurie's surgery. <br />KathyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com