tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post5988902405164402886..comments2023-10-03T06:01:22.776-04:00Comments on The aftermath of rainbows and unicorns: One of the grievances Samhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11342453970164354596noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-50771129223995011452013-01-23T18:14:15.516-05:002013-01-23T18:14:15.516-05:00Every parent (and you have been her parent) has a ...Every parent (and you have been her parent) has a total wrenching with the kid who is trying to grow up but is too young/afraid/uncertain. Yes, her view is warped. Totally. But beyond that, you are going through a rite of passage that will turn out fine, if you both agree to never let anything come between you permanently. I had a similar experience with my older daughter, to whom I am incredibly close, when she was a teenager. It hurt, I shook and trembled, and was afraid things would never be the same. And they weren't. But they weren't worse, either. Just...different. Hang in there. It's very, very hard, all of it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-42032749557349431602013-01-23T17:56:43.974-05:002013-01-23T17:56:43.974-05:00Okay, I am totally on the Alex's-view-of-Aunt-...Okay, I am totally on the Alex's-view-of-Aunt-Elaine-is-warped train. BUT it also kind of makes sense that it was warped. Because she was so young and it seems that Aunt Elaine gave her some level of love so in a (warped) way, she was attached to her. Kid attach, even to totally messed up people that hurt them; it's just what they do. <br /><br />But also...I think she's a teenager. She's not going to understand why you made the decisions you made because everything revolves around HER right now. She probably won't appreciate all that you've sacrificed for her for awhile. But that doesn't change the fact that you made it possible for your sisters to have a life with more opportunity and more support and to have a childhood when your own was cut short so cruelly. <br /><br />I'm so sorry Sam. This sounds so, so hard. But you and Alex will work things out as long as you are willing to at least hear each other out. You may always see certain things differently, but that's okay.Ninanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-86123332672247566302013-01-23T13:08:50.204-05:002013-01-23T13:08:50.204-05:00There are times when I truly feel parenting is a t...There are times when I truly feel parenting is a thankless job ... must feel worse for you since you are not a parent and didn't choose to be one. Hopefully, this chapter in your life will be over soon, with everybody learning something positive from it. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5716464676430798966.post-63165795414729661152013-01-23T07:11:44.923-05:002013-01-23T07:11:44.923-05:00The food puzzle might not have seemed so great to ...The food puzzle might not have seemed so great to her if <b>you</b> hadn't been around to figure out how to feed her after all the food was gone. And I'm sure Aunt Elaine would have moved mountains to make sure she got to attend the special dance school with all the special dance clothes. Maybe she can move back. If her resentment is so huge, then cut her loose and let her see how well she does surviving on the streets of NYC at 15. I predict she wouldn't last 15 minutes on her own. Of course, that would probably be your fault too. She needs a giant dose of reality that she discovers on her own.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com