We had our fire family dinner tonight. With one of my least favorite families. The wife always puts us down and then tries to make us thank her for it. Alexandra, your hair is so knotted and messy, why don't I brush it out for you and really make it shine? Sammy, you're wearing eye makeup! Come into the bathroom with me - I'll show you the technique to putting eyeliner on perfectly.
It would be bad enough if she just did that, but there are two other things about it that really kill me. One is that Al's hair is absolutely fine, and I know how to do makeup. This woman has pin-straight hair and me and my sisters have curly hair. The other is there's this whole tone of you poor, motherless children, you can't possibly know anything girly, so let me teach you while I make you feel lost without my wonderful help.
I gotta be honest, I'm over it. I'd rather get to be alone at home with Josh. Or even by myself. Just not feeling it anymore. Aside from the free food, dealing with the peering eyes and sympathetic smiles is just too much. It makes me want to scream.
Just because your makeup costs more than I spent on food in a week doesn't mean it's better. It's FINE to use Cetaphil. When I was in high school I had a friend who went to a dermatologist and she asked her doctor if it was okay. He said there's no reason to use something expensive from Bloomingdales.
I don't mind when someone pulls me aside to make sure I'm using birth control. I get how devastating it would be to get pregnant. So that's fine. But don't go up to my little sister and ask if anyone's talked to her about periods as if I don't exist and am not on top of things. Ask ME, not HER. And for fuck's sake, when Danielle gets embarrassed don't push her to talk about something.
God some people really suck.
2 comments:
You know, especially if your sisters feel the same way about it as you do...at this point you could really call up whoever coordinates these dinners among all the families and thank them for all these years of generosity, say that you really appreciate that they've kept it up so long, but that although you enjoy coming over to people's houses it's not really as necessary to the three of you as it used to be. You could suggest that if any of the families still want to invite you over from time to time you'd very much enjoy the hospitality, but that they don't need to feel obligated to have a strict rotation for every week that everyone from the station has to participate in. That way, you might be able to ease out of the routine gradually, and while the ones who truly want to have you over (who will hopefully also be the ones who you truly enjoy going to) may still invite you sometimes, maybe the ones who are doing it more out of a feeling of charity won't bother, or if they do you can more easily get away with saying you already have plans, or just plain "no thank you."
If your sisters don't feel the same way, it's also not so weird given your own stage of life if you just let them go sometimes on their own.
they want to go. they don' want to go without me. alex especially likes to
go. honestly i don't even want them there without me because they're not as
outspoken as i am about defending our privacy.
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