Alex got invited to a boy's 13th birthday bar mitzvah. I didn't think they were really good friends or anything - all she's ever said about him is that when he walks by he pats her on the head. She cried when I told her she can't go, but we have spent over $100 lately on the stupid college applications. Somebody told me today that you have to pay to rent a cap and gown for graduation so next time the AP and I talk, I am going to ask if you can graduate without going to the graduation because then we wouldn't have to pay out that money. People charge money for every little thing.
Alex tried crying to Aunt Elaine all night begging her to say she could go to the party. Aunt Elaine was like, "if you want to go, then go." Except Alex doesn't have a dress or enough money to get a present. She has a denim skirt and two summer dresses that are not really weather appropriate or covering-her-ass appropriate. I think this summer she will have to wear the dresses as shirts.
So now she hates me for saying no. After Alex had already gone to bed and cried herself to sleep I went into our room to look for something and she'd flipped over my bed and kicked all my piles of clean clothes into a big mess. What a little shit.
1 comment:
A present isn't an entry fee for attending a bar mitzvah ceremony.
Proper attire for a synagogue service is more of an issue, though.
Alex's friend sounds sweet and might be sad if Alex couldn't be there. It would be a nice experience for Alex to be able to attend.
How much money would Alex be able to spend? How soon is the event?
A thoughtful and meaningful gift appropriate for the occasion can be gotten for relatively little cash.
Clothing could perhaps be borrowed. The denim skirt is not ideal, but depending on the style might work in a pinch if paired with a dressy sweater. Almost-new and even new items are available cheap at thrift stores or on Craigslist.
You shouldn't have to go to the graduation ceremony. People skip that for all sorts of reasons.
But if you want to go, you ought to be able to obtain assistance with the involved cost. No one should be excluded for lack of funds.
It sure would be nice if in your new apartment you could have a framed photo of a just-graduated-you in your cap and gown flanked by your two sisters. How symbolic that would be!
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