Once my mom took me and Dani to a flea market or farmer's market or something. I was really little, like five-ish, and Dani was a baby. It was the middle of summer and crazy hot. She sent me to a stand to ask for an ice water. The lady gave me water in a cup. No ice, no straw. When I asked for those she told me beggars can't be choosers. She didn't even give me the chance to tell her I'd been sent with money in my pocket.
Today the wife of a guy who used to work with my brother dropped off a garbage bag filled with clothes for us. It was nice of her, but I wonder. Since we didn't beg, can we be choosy about this? They have two girls, who, according to all the tops in the bag, are very messy eaters. Every single top is stained. One kid is really overweight and all the pants would fall down on Alex. They're the right length but Al could fit two of her into each pair of jeans. Plus there are holes in the seams. Then there are a bunch of shorts but they are all ones with words across the ass and also don't fit. Dani could wear them but they just about show her underwear. I really would not want her to go out in public looking like that. Alex can't wear them - she'd get pants'd.
We could wear some of the shirts but not to work. They're all like extra wide on me and Danielle. Maybe this makes us ungrateful but I don't want to keep any of these clothes. They're all either stained, too big, too small, slutty, or just ... gross. I hate having to be all thank you, you're so nice to us, for what amounts to like total crap.
Alex wants to get those plaid shorts we're seeing all over. I am going to try to get her a pair for the summer. She wants to be a little preppie girl.
2 comments:
Yes, you CAN be choosers.
I grew up wearing hand-me-downs, and I hated it... but no one says you have to keep everything you are given, especially if it's stained and/or doesn't fit. I often give our kids clothes to some friends who have been out of work for quite some time, but we always tell them "Keep whatever you want, and please donate the rest to Goodwill or someone else who could use it."
That's what I think you should do too. Even if there is NOTHING you want to keep. You can't tell people what to give you, but you CAN say "no thanks" or pass it along to someone else if you don't need or want what they offer.
YES, you can be choosers and feel good about it. THROW OUT the stained clothes..... Everyone deserves clean clothes to wear and stain free. I hope you can save for the shorts for Alex because they are cute. I lost your blog for a very long time but glad I found it.
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