Friday, May 22, 2009

Feeling very sleazy

Anon person who commented with a link to summer sublets i know. but if I can avoid spending $1500 or whatever for that month and a half it would be really great to save that money.  It feels wrong but my sisters are making me feel frantic so i am playing all the angles and i talked to josh about it today.  

Every day there's stuff we can't afford and it doesn't make me blink.  It's kind of funny - I spend so much time touching money but ........

Definitely up there with one of our very most awkward talks. Josh is going to see what he can do. When I was talking to Danielle about it after work I realized I'm waiting for Craig and Josh - why is my future dependent on two men? something about that feels wrong.  anyway now i am tempted to tell craig to hold off on saying anything to aunt elaine until we see what Josh comes up with because if I can avoid pissing her off that would be great. 

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

If Josh weren't involved at all, if you were getting the $1000 apartment for just you and your sisters, what would your plan be?

sss said...

anonymous,just wondering,do you have an issue with sam and her sisters living with josh? it seems to me that josh and his parents have sams best interest in mind.its seems to me from reading what sam has written about josh and his parents that they are very loving towards her.just wondering?

Anonymous said...

Not the anon above but isn't sam just 17? didn't she say her sisters don't want to live with him? hasn't she expressed doubts herself about living with him?

College is difficult. How much more difficult will it be for Sam who is also trying to raise her sisters, work, and nurture a relationships with her live-in boyfriend who is probably quite spoiled?

Anonymous said...

$650 Large Room 4 Rent (williamsburg, brooklyn)

sss said...

anon,you make some good points.hopefully sam has talked this thru with craig.sometimes when reading sams post its amazing to think shes only 17.I lived with my boyfriend when I was 18 and in college.it was wayyy back in the day.I didnt have to take care of sisters.and I could also leave at any time as I had the support of my parents.did i miss out on some things? yes.could i have gotten more out of college? yes.was it the safe/ thing for me to do? yes.I had all of my own reasons as to why I needed to do what i did.regret it?sometimes in hindsight I wish I had the ability to stretch myself in other ways.but over all it worked.we are still together 35 years later.

Anonymous said...

Josh spoiled? We haven't seen any evidence of that. He might not really get what it is like to be poor, though, what considerations someone in Sam's situation faces. He and his family, however, have appeared to be generous with and helpful to and thoughtful of Sam.

This living with Josh definitely could have a lot of potential benefits, but it also certainly would come with many drawbacks and risks.

The problem right now seems to be that agreeing to the proposed arrangement on Josh's parents' terms, supposedly beneficial to Sam, locks her into facing a summer of possible homelessness.

Also, it seems to be causing Sam to feel uncomfortably in debt, lacking in control, and "sleazy."

Anonymous said...

Anonymous said...
If Josh weren't involved at all, if you were getting the $1000 apartment for just you and your sisters, what would your plan be?

sss said...
anonymous,just wondering,do you have an issue with sam and her sisters living with josh? it seems to me that josh and his parents have sams best interest in mind.its seems to me from reading what sam has written about josh and his parents that they are very loving towards her.just wondering?

---

I am simply asking what Sam's plan would otherwise be.