Umm ... that would have to be pretty much all my high school friends. I can barely find the time to sleep as much as you're supposed to. Sometimes we get extra credit if we go to an exhibit at this museum or that one, and there's never time. Friends have totally fallen off to the side. I am always trying to figure out how to like, make friends, or keep friendships.
Last week I called Sebastian, from high school. I knew he was going to some college around here and figured he might have time to hang out. My current thinking is that I need a third job where friends can hang out and visit me. Today I only had two tutoring appointments though so after that I rushed to meet Sebi for dinner. Seriously I can not remember the last time I laughed so hard. A woman actually leaned over and told us while she was happy we were having such a good time she would appreciate if we could be quieter.
We had a long talk about all the gay kids killing themselves because of being bullied for being gay. Sebastian made an interesting point - that he never actually came out. He was just who he is, and his family figured it out and soon after, his friends figured it out too.
I have a really hard time relating to those boys. Not because I'm a girl. And not because I'm straight. More because nobody here cares if someone is gay. It's actually kind of surprising if you're totally straight. "Not even bi-curious? Whoa." I kind of just want to tell them all to come here. Probably any big city, but I definitely know in this one, nobody makes fun of gay kids.
The rainbow curriculum works. I am shocked that it was controversial and that it's not used everywhere. That's not to say that people don't get made fun of here, because they do. Here though, it's not because you're a lesbian or Korean or from India. It gets better. It really does. I would like someone who is against people being gay, or gay marriage to explain why it's not good enough to just not be gay yourself, and not marry someone of the same sex yourself. Why do you have to get involved with what anyone else does?
3 comments:
Sam, good for you for calling Sebastian and making plans! You've come such a long way in just a few months with respect to all the friendship issues. In this case, just a short time ago it seemed you wouldn't even consider attempting to get in touch with a friend from high school. But you did and you had a great time! Well done, and may you continue to stay in communication with Sebastian, obviously a great friend to have.
I'm from Indiana, middle of the bible belt, and conservative mecca of the midwest. Every time I hear the rhetoric about marriage being one man & one woman, I just want to bitch-slap someone. There is just so limited tolerance around here. So when my daughter was assigned "gay marriage" as her topic for a "controversial speech" assignment at her Catholic junior high school, I was quite proud of her for coming out in favor of it. To her this was just a no-brainer... it doesn't hurt anyone, right? If only more people around here could realize that Christianity means nothing if you practice hate instead of love and acceptance.
I found your blog via Snickollet. I have two daughters who are 22 and 18. If I had a third daughter, I would want it to be you. You are amazing. (Of course I know if I had you for a daughter, I'd also have your sisters...that would be great, too.) I wish I had been your auntie in 2001. :\
-Claire-
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