Sunday, August 25, 2013

Project: Acclimation

Josh and I decided to spend this weekend doing all of our favorite New York things, kind of to catch up on what we'd missed. We saw a slew of movies (The Butler, We're the Millers, Fruitvale Station). Ran across the Brooklyn Bridge. Had Dunkin' Donuts, went to the High Line, Chelsea Piers and the farmer's market. It was like a NY total immersion weekend.

Our tenant people move out Tuesday. Or maybe Wednesday? I know we are supposed to walk through and get the keys back Wednesday morning. On one hand I want to go home, but on the other hand I don't want things to go back to how they were. I am a little scared that going home will change this tentative peaceful place we have with Alex.


Anonymous said...

Perhaps before move in you hold a meeting. Maybe if you put some new rules/expectations and goals you guys can make it work. I also think you may have to be blunt and outline what you find to be totally unexceptable in regards to behavior and what will happen. As in she will need to move out, etc. be clear and also be willing to listen to her as well. Good luck.

Anonymous said...

It sounds like it's time for Dani to live in a dorm and for Alex to start understanding that she will need to live in one starting her freshman year. I know college is a few years away for her but she needs to know you are her sister and for all of the MANY sacrifices you have made in keeping your family together the time has come for them to act as adults and be more independent.the goal in raising children is that when they are an adult you have taught them the skills they need, the morals and social expectations for them to function on their own.

Anonymous said...

You are right to note a correlation between continuity of location and continuity of behavior. Maybe making some changes to the physical environment of the apartment will help. Have Alex paint her room (if your lease allows); rearrange the dining room furniture; get some new houseplants for the living room. You can explain to Alex why you are doing this and in doing so either open a conversation or simply state your expectations, or you can choose just to make the changes without explanation and see whether it does anything.