This is why mothers should not be allowed to die! Not until their kids are like 60.
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
This is why not having a mother sucks
Because I don't know how to ask to take a morning off from work! I always go to work when I'm supposed to be there. What if they get angry and fire me? What if they get somebody to do reception while I'm out looking at stupid apartments, decide that person does a better job than I do, and then they fire me?
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From what you've written before, you have an understanding boss. Everyone needs time off to get things done; he will understand. If you're paid by the hour, you simply won't get paid for that time. If you're salaried, you should have vacation time coming. Or perhaps you can make up the time in small increments. Just ask... it never hurts to ask.
Rosie
You are good at your job. You are obviously valued at your job, as a worker and as a person.
I'd like to say those thoughts go away as you get older, but they might not. I fight with them from time to time.
State that you need the morning off for an appointment, and proactively offer to make it up, or lose the hours or use banked vacation time, whatever policy is. I've never worked somewhere that I had a good standing with the management that begrudged me a day off.
I'm so very sorry that your mother isn't here when you need her guidance.
If you need the time off, and you arrange it properly in advance, there should be no problem.
"How do I arrange for a morning off from work?" you might inquire.
The response would probably be, "Oh, do you need to take a morning off?"
Then you could say, "Yes, I need to attend to a personal matter one morning next week. Which day would my not being here cause the least inconvenience?"
That said, your worries have some validity. They aren't going to get angry and fire you for asking for a morning off, but you do want to keep making a good impression and keep being seen as super responsible and indispensible.
So, it shouldn't be a problem, but your instincts are right: If you don't really need to take the time off, don't do it.
It is upsetting that Josh's father is pressuring you into taking time off to do something you rightfully feel you need not do and that he doesn't seem to respect that you take your job seriously and have real concerns about staying employed unlike many young adults who have silly summer jobs and no worries about blowing them off.
Have you said to Tom, straight out, that you trust him to find something suitable and will be happy with anything he picks? He's probably just worried that he'll settle on something that will horrify you for some reason he hasn't thought of.
It does suck. Many times, it is just plain difficult not to have your mom, especially for guidance, pep talks and so on. My own mom passed away when i was young and I still to this day wish she was here. No matter what age you get, a girl always needs her mom.
You could tell Tom that all you require is proximity to the subway and reiterate your certainty that whatever he chooses will be more than sufficient for you and your sisters, and then inform him that therefore you will not be taking off from work to look at apartments as you do not feel that to be a responsible decision.
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