Danielle asked this as we were sitting down to dinner, and I was stumped. Alex had no idea. Gigolo? There's no good word for it. But the question kicked off a dinner-long conversation about sex. Josh pretty much never says anything when this happens, and my sisters pretty much ignore him - they have no sense of embarrassment like I would when it comes to talking about sex in front of a boy.
While we were doing dishes, Josh asked me if I feel right about talking to them about things like abortion and orgasms. How I know that I'm telling them the right things. I asked if he was saying he disagrees with something I said. No.
I didn't really get what he was saying so I went to ask Danielle what she thought. She thought Josh is prissy in general and while he believes abortion should be legal he also believes people should be ashamed to have them and never talk about it (and certainly not at dinner).
It's hard to know what the truth is, even though nobody's lying. Before we started having sex Josh and I talked about std's and abortions and he told me he was pro-choice. But I still don't feel 100% about how it went down.
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Players...not nearly as bad as slut, but I guess that's society for you. I think Josh is sensitive because he's not as good as you (and not as used to it as you) at finding that little white line between raising your sisters and still being their sister.
Wow! your really having to have these difficult conversations and unfortunatly Josh comes from a home were theyre probably very conservative. (judging from some of your posts from when you were living there)We never spoke about sex at all at home (not periods either) I think its good that your sisters feel comfortable to talk to you freely about what they are thinking/feeling - its very important. I also think you are doing a better job than some parents!! The pro choice conversation will always be difficult becouse most ppl are one way or the other until they are in the situation even if they have had a conversation about it. here in sa we call them Man Whores. pretty harsh but deserving depending on the situation ( my sisters are 16 and 17 and I am 31 so I guess its a bit different.) I think the stress with everyone wondering why/how you can have these conversations is becouse of how young alex is. They just dont understand whats going on there in the world with kids younger than her all over the world! Have a great weekend!
I would say man-whore. Classy, I know.
Talking to your sisters about sex is very important. Out of respect for Josh you might decide to table that conversation until dinner is over. But you are exactly right to tell them the facts about sex, all of it, including the difficult stuff like abortions, orgasms and STDs.
I prefer the term man whore
Better your sisters hear the truth about abortions and orgasms from you than from their misinformed friends. Its good that your sisters feel comfortable talking to you about that stuff.
There's a good website aimed at teens called Scarleteen.com that has pretty good discussions on sexuality. Its frank and honest and answers everything from anatomy questions to "I think I'm pregnant because my boyfriend came in the jacuzzi," but not in a pOrny way. Its a good resource.
We call them man-sluts around here.
Your sisters are lucky to have you to talk to. They need to learn stuff from someone who actually cares about them. Good for you.
Some people are against abortion but see the necessity for it to be legal.
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