Saturday mornings I work. Which means I don't usually go out Friday nights, because I'm exhausted from the week and plus have to get up early the next morning. Saturday nights are the night each week I can stay out all night if I want because I don't have to be anywhere Sunday mornings. Some Sundays all four of us sleep in until noon or later.
Josh was not finished being in a bad mood left over from his parents saying we have to visit with people in Florida. I didn't know this though when I got home from work today so it sucked extra hard to walk in the door and get, "You know what sucks about you?" Instead of dropping my bag on the floor and taking off my shoes, I just turned around and left. I went to the coffee shop two blocks away and texted Dani to let her know where I was. Five minutes later Josh showed up.
Him: what happened to you?
Me: I went someplace I wouldn't be verbally attacked the second I walked in the door.
Josh: don't be like that.
Me: then don't be a dick
Josh: what the fuck?
Me: I don't know - that's why I left. Because what the fuck that I walk in the door and have somebody in my face psyched to tell me how I suck.
Josh: that's not what I meant
Me: it's what you said. I already lived with someone who treated me like shit and made me dread coming home. I don't want to come home to that.
Josh: you took it all wrong
Me: then you said it all wrong.
Josh: I just want to go party but you're always working
Me: yeah supporting other people is a real bitch
Josh: it IS
Me: sorry my life is such a fucking buzzkill for you
Josh: well it sucks
Me: yeah. so does having a whiny brat of a boyfriend
Josh: you don't have to be such a bitch
Me: you know what? go fuck yourself. I came here to get away from you. so leave.
People were looking at us. There is nothing worse in Josh's prissy world than causing a scene, and he was getting embarrassed. He tried to talk me into leaving with him, but only because he wanted to get away from the people watching. So I refused, because he cared about them and not me. Josh left. 20 minutes later Alex called me, saying Josh just left there and told her he was sleeping at a friend's house (of course, he can't sleep at his parents' house since he's angry at them too), so would I come home now? So I went home and ate an orange and a cannoli for dinner.
It is going to be very weird if I wind up having broken up with my boyfriend because I couldn't party enough.
And now it is 4 in the morning and I am wide awake and angry.
5 comments:
Sorry you two had a fight. Relationships can be hard work sometimes. Just remember how much you love each other and try to keep calm when you are talking it out.
good for you for holding your own with your bratty entitled boyfriend
Sounds like it's good he decided to leave for the night. Hopefully he will remember soon that he loves you, and how to be the great guy that we usually read about.
This may be obvious to you already, so forgive me. It is something I didn't realize until I was in my mid twenties and had experienced a few unfortunate arguments with lovers. It is so easy to let a few crossed wires (moments when you have opposing needs that aren't being met by one another; like when you came home needing a calm, warm greeting and Josh was sitting at home, bored, waiting for you with his *great* {ahem} one-liner to banter with you about your crazy schedule) get completely out of control and become the catalyst for a much bigger argument.
I suggest that when you are both calmer you ask Josh to revisit the original flare-up that made you turn on your heels and walk away. If he can see that you came home exhausted and needing affection rather than a snarky comment and you can see through his poor choice of words through to the true intention of them, I think you can get through this with a stronger relationship rather than a weaker one.
Good luck. I'm Pulling for you, Sam!
Hi Sam,
Anon above me has very good advice. Communication is everything, sit down when you are both much calmer and talk this through.
You are BOTH very lucky to have each other, work it through - it's worth it.
Bec :)
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