Wednesday, August 8, 2012

Circle of sisters

There is this sciencey geeky fair thing coming up that Danielle is really excited about. So excited that she wants to go all the days it'll be happening. So excited she wants me and Alex to also go. To be honest, it's not really how I want to spend my money or my time.

Dani refuses to hear that and keeps pushing me to agree she can get tickets that are less expensive if you buy them early. I feel like Dani and I are very far away, that she's a total geek and I'm not.

When I said something to Josh about it though, he claimed I had it all wrong. That doing an accounting major is a type of geekery and it's Alex who really feels left out of the family geek squad.

Dani has taught herself science for fun. She's helped with my math homework. It's like she's existing on a different level. Alex gets low A's or high B's in her math and science classes, and that's with a lot of studying. It's hard to imagine her feeling left out. I always feel left out because it seemed like I was taking care of them, and now they share a room together without me. Al is so good at seeming happy all the time that to think of her seeing herself as not as much a part of us is weird and scary.

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

You should really consider checking it out. I've never been big on science but this stuff can be pretty cool believe it or not.

Anonymous said...

There's also the fact that Alex Is younger. It is generally the natural condition of the younger sibling to feel that she has to or doesn't or never will measure up to the older sibling(s).

Anonymous said...

It is also the human condition to feel left out. Just because you feel it doesn't mean you are. And just because you feel it doesn't mean they don't.

Kizz said...

When you have 3 people someone always feels left out. We naturally pair up and then there's an extra. Ideally, and I'm sure this is the case for you guys, the person who feels like an extra usually rotates so you share different things with different sisters and it all works out.

Monica said...

I have two very good female friends and I just got back from a weekend away with my husband and one of them and her husband. We commented at one point that we were texting our other friend to help her feel less left out when our husbands both stated that it's much easier to be a man than a woman.

The three of us often do things in pairs as we are all not always available and not always interested but since we all care we take steps to make sure no one ever feels left out. It's work but we're worth it and so are Dani and Alex and you.

For this I'd recommend going for a different reason however. Dani is excited about this, it's how she wants her future to go and a couple of hours now so you can talk to her about it is a great investment.

sam said...

I'm going.

Suzanne said...

Go! Make this a day about Dani, everyone needs that once in a while. Science fair, her favorite food, and extra love for her.