Becca and I made up ages ago. She brings out the hardcore Italian in me, where you get upset a little bit - get all loud, scream at someone, and then two days later you're completely over it and are shocked they think you're angry at them.
Thank you all for explaining the other side of how she might have seen it. And more about a clothing swap. I have to be honest - it really pissed me off that she gave me such a big paper cut. Wait, that's not even really being honest. It really pissed me off that she hurt me and I didn't hurt her back for it. I haven't fought in a long time - think I've lost my edge.
When we got a delivery first thing in the morning, a different bike messenger came, and I couldn't help but think it was like totally on purpose, that she didn't want to see me. It would be nice to be able to say I didn't spend the next two hours wondering why she didn't come, thinking about what she might say to me when she finally did, what I might say to her, whether I'd become a lesbian for worrying so much about seeing a girl.
Then work got really busy and I forgot to stress about the whole mess. When I came back from lunch one of the real estate agents had left stuff on the counter with a note for me to have it messengered out. It took me almost ten minutes to work up to calling to have them send someone. It wasn't her. I decided it was getting ridiculous and forced myself to stop thinking about it. At almost 5pm she showed up with a package and threw it on my desk. It slid across, pushed other things onto the floor and then fell on those things.
There was nobody in the lobby so I came out from behind the desk and stood in front of her. "What the hell was that?" I told her I hadn't meant to hurt her feelings yesterday and really don't have any extra clothes that I don't wear - that was the only reason I said no. That if she hadn't gotten all bitter I would have liked to do something else with her.
She glared at me, and was like, "Don't do me any favors." So fuck her.
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She has a problem! How petty.
But I think she is reading something into what you're saying, because there's no way that she can get so tetchy over that.
She might simply not believe you, in which case, what's the point in having a friend who doesn't believe you?
But losing a potential friend is always a pity.
Maybe I'm a spiteful bitch, but at that point I'd make a call to the courier service and ask why they seem unable to provide courteous service. All personal feelings aside, your employer pays hers to do one thing: deliver packages and mail, either to or from your place of work. If she can't do that without cutting your hand and throwing shit at you, then she's looking to be unemployed really quickly.
I agree, she's a bitch, no way around it.
I didn't post yesterday because everyone seemed to be being so thoughtful and diplomatic about the whole thing. But now I can say she sounded like a bitch from the start (making comments about your smallish wardrobe, etc.) and now she's proved it. Forget about her.
Catching up after a weekend away. I really liked your post about the fire dinner. I'm glad that Josh got a glimpse into such an important era in your life.
As for the messenger, she has reacted in a really petty way. It's completely unprofessional for her to let her emotions interfere with her job (by throwing the package across your desk). I think you handled things as well as possible. If she comes back and continues the pettiness, definitely call the service and ask that she not be sent back to your offices
I have to be honest - it really pissed me off that she gave me such a big paper cut. Wait, that's not even really being honest. It really pissed me off that she hurt me and I didn't hurt her back for it.
That is quite insightful.
It seems she took your explanation and just added it into whatever picture it was she already had of your situation, incorporated it in such a way as to support her assumptions, rather than allowing herself to understand that her impression had been incorrect.
Plus, it sounds like there is something else she is reading into it all that we just aren't getting, as her behavior with the package was so extreme.
Maybe next time she'll follow your example and try to clear things up.
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