It's awkward when you call your doctor to say you think your sister needs a shrink and he asks why and you pause and then just say, "Because everyone on the internet told me she does." I struggled to explain her blaming me for everything, the anger. Finally I repeated myself. "The internet told me to."
Doug just laughed and suggested we find her someone. I wanted confirmation. "And by 'we' you mean ...?" He confirmed. "Me." When I told him she'd probably want a guy rather than a girl shrink, Doug told me he'd find a girl. I laughed and Doug explained that some teenage girls have this way of flirting without flirting that gets men on their side. He said that a therapist of all people, should realize it's happening but a girl therapist will let Alex get away with a lot less. Sounds perfect to me.
I feel like a traitor for telling on her.
Doug just laughed and suggested we find her someone. I wanted confirmation. "And by 'we' you mean ...?" He confirmed. "Me." When I told him she'd probably want a guy rather than a girl shrink, Doug told me he'd find a girl. I laughed and Doug explained that some teenage girls have this way of flirting without flirting that gets men on their side. He said that a therapist of all people, should realize it's happening but a girl therapist will let Alex get away with a lot less. Sounds perfect to me.
I feel like a traitor for telling on her.
7 comments:
It seems more like you are trying to help her as a parent would do. That is the role you have been thrust into and since she's only 15 I guess you're not through raising her yet. Lots of parents send their kids to a shrink and they probably have conflicting feelings about it just as you do. Hope it helps.
Kathy
Good for you, and for him.
Doug is fantastic. Always realistic. Always objective. Good luck.
So proud of you Sam. I can totally get your having mixed feelings about it, but she needs this. So glad you could call Doug for a referral.
Proud of you for doing a difficult thing. Good for you.
I'm so glad you called! I hope it helps!
Well done. Hard, but good. Now she'll really have a reason to be mad at you! (somewhat kidding) In the long run, she'll know that you acted because you love her.
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